Being Gentle with Myself in the Questions - Part III

(This is a part of my "loaves and fishes" offerings - click here to see the original post. Being Gentle with myself in the Questions - Part I is here.)

What does being gentle with myself even mean?

Accepting my contradictions...and to stand in the Presence of God with all that I am – all that I cherish and all that makes me shudder. It is letting my current pain, the newness of this place in my spiritual and soul journey, reveal not only my questions but also my longings beneath the questions. Mostly, my pain reveals my need for God to be my all in all, and for me to abandon to His love and care. This is not a one-time act. It is daily. It is moment by moment. It is currently very tiring for I am not surrendering to the process...but fighting...perhaps like a soon-to-be born afraid to come out of the womb. 

Surrender is...
...yielding unparalleled joy

As I type, a heavy sigh heart is pounding, I can feel it in my chest and my jaw/neck.

I am a stubborn woman, Lord. 
This too I bring into Your Presence and ask that You will give me rest – 
a settledness that likely won't answer my questions 
or even quiet my insecurities, 
but where I am free, at home, messy and miraculous,
able to be me without any masks, make-up, illusions etc. 
Here am I, just as I am...
today with fear and hope...
wondering how in the world those two things can co-exist, 
but they do because of Your kindnesses toward my heart and life.


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